Anja’s self-compassion tip
Self-compassion is never about self-indulgence or self-pity, it’s about doing what’s most effective for you. Doing this becomes much more difficult when your self-critic is especially loud.
Instead of buying into your self-critic, ask yourself: “What would I say to a friend?”. Think about how you show up for someone you truly love when they are in pain. Imagine what difference it could make if you show up for yourself with the same words or actions that you would use to comfort a friend. This could come in the form of some reassuring words or simply asking the question: “What can I do to help?”
Outside the therapy room
On weekends, you’ll find Anja fuelling her love for either food or music; baking new recipes, checking out new restaurants and the latest bands. She also loves being out in nature where she can happily sit and stare at the ocean or literally stop and smell the flowers while on a hike.
What I’m Watching…
“I am currently sad to have finished The Sinner much faster than I wanted to. It follows a detective that attempts to solve a murder where the killer is known but the motive is not. As the investigation continues we learn more about the detective’s past and how he comes to some sort of peace with his own past. It’s as captivating as it is entertaining and speaks strongly to the forensic psychologist in me. Warning: highly addictive… “