Some people think that you should only see a psychologist if you’re “mentally unwell”. Labels huh? Pfft! Kick them aside, we all got baggage babe. Some view it as a sign of weakness—an indication that you “can’t handle your problems on your own”. At the other end of the scale are those that consider their problems as unimportant – things are going OK, but there are people out there worse off. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Considering the professional help of a psychologist flares up all these BUTS and IF-THEN rules we place on ourselves… all manner of procrastination and resistance kicks in.
As such, it’s often not until we hit rock bottom that we seek help. Things start to fall away or fall apart. When your destructive habits have reached their all-time peak and you’re like… FUCK. Self-destruction, my dear friend, you won this round.
It sounds perfectly cliché, but did you know that the time you can often REALLY benefit from seeing a psychologist is when things are going well. Speaking from personal experience, there is a stark contrast in the therapeutic experience if I compare when I saw a psychologist when I was completely down and out vs. when things had kinda been faring well. Like, worlds of difference. What I realised is that there is always some degree of underlying ‘stuff’ that can be dealt with, bubbling away under the surface unnoticed, only to rear its ugly head when things go awry. But when things ARE going OK, we are actually in such a better headspace to be able to make meaningful change in our lives.
We see this time and time again in therapy – when clients get in early they can typically turn things around more quickly. It’s a nip it in the bud, preventative type action. So there’s that perspective, and also the fact that seeing a psychologist can benefit you in many more ways than you realise. Many of our courses come with the offer of three free sessions and we strongly recommend people take us up on this. You DON’T need to be feeling like shit to benefit from a one-on-one session.
- It’s an incredible opportunity to step out of the daily rush of our lives for a moment. We are so wired to run from A to B to C to having to decide on D, completely on autopilot. How often do we pause and meaningfully reflect on what’s been going on in our lives? How often do we even look up and really pay attention to what’s going on in this very moment? Let alone look ahead at what’s to come. Seeing a psychologist provides you time for reflection, and a safe space to do so with the guidance of another human being.
- Maladaptive thought patterns are typically running haywire in the background of our internal narrative. It gives us the chance to re-evaluate our thoughts, opinions, and reactions, and to update them if necessary.
- You get the opportunity to get to know yourself, to get deeply in touch with your true desires (that sometimes never come to the surface, if we don’t give ourselves space). Who wouldn’t want to get to know the amazing person, that is, themselves, that much better??
- It gives us the chance to ponder our relationships and their dynamics so that we can exist in a way that leaves us feeling confident in ourselves and empowered by our decisions.
- If you are having an issue or something’s been bothering you, you get a professional and objective perspective on your current situation, not just your friend’s telling you what you think you need to hear.
With the guidance of a psychologist you can obtain an objective perspective on what’s going on in your life. You will get to know yourself on a deeper level and have a better understanding of how you spend your time, your thoughts, your value systems and whether you’re truly living in line with your goals.
You may still be thinking… yeah not for me! But it takes guts to face up to this stuff! Like anything worthwhile, once you push through, the benefits are invaluable. Go on! Bite the bullet, deal with your baggage early on and reap the rewards.