PROVISIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST / COUNSELLOR & COACH
Ash’s tips to support a mate who needs to vent
“1. Listen, listen, listen. Ask questions like “tell me more”, and “how does that make you feel?” to give you a greater understanding of their experience.
2. Validate their emotional truth. How someone feels is never up for debate. Acknowledge their emotional experience by repeating “feeling” words back to them, e.g. “I was just so frustrated at my boss…” “I can imagine, that sounds so frustrating for you…”
3. Don’t rush to fill a pause. Each time they finish talking, pause for a few seconds without saying anything (this will probably feel awkward at first).
4. Help them find their feelings. Encourage them to describe their emotions as carefully as possible. Let them land on the words themselves – don’t rush to fill in the dots.
5. Find out how to help. Once they’re done venting, finish up with a sincere offer to help. “What can I do to help? or “is there anything you need right now I can do?” And then do it.
Outside the therapy room
“You can find me listening to rock n roll records, watching horror movies or down an Instagram-wormhole! I love supporting my mates in the live music and visual art scenes, and am always on the lookout for Sydney’s best pepperoni pizza.”
What I’m Reading…
THE HAPPINESS HYPOTHESIS – JONATHAN HAIDT
“Love all of Haidt’s books and how he helps me make sense of the human mind. “
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